Jean–Claude Kaufmann is Professor of Sociology at University of Paris V Sorbonne.

"Kaufmann suggests that we have to reverse out of the cul de sac of sex for sex′s sake and recombine it with love once more to make our experiences less chilly but also less clouded by romantic illusions."
The Guardian

"Demonstrates the inherent problems that many women still face when it comes to navigating romantic and sexual relationships, whether or not the internet is involved."
Times Higher Education

"Confronts the biggest development in the world of love and sex over the past two decade: the internet … Kaufmann′s study mostly shows how the internet, far from transforming our love lives, simply compounds existing contradictions."
Prospect

 

"The internet – a new world unlike any we knew. Here nothing is final and irrevocable, everything can be tried and experimented with and there is always a second chance. But if this is blessing, it is surely a mixed one. What is gained and what lost? And, most importantly, how does love – that blissful state we so passionately desire – fare when suspended between online comforts and the rugged reality of the offline world? Jean–Claude Kaufmann offers us, the perplexed and the confused, a truly priceless service. He locates, spells out and carefully calculates the gains and losses revealed at the critical encounter of the two worlds, at the moment of truth: that first face–to–face date which follows online dating. This illuminating and enlightening study is a report from a battle which no one planned yet few, if any of us, can avoid."
Zygmunt Bauman, University of Leeds

Introduction
Prologue: On the net
– Love′s new world
– The hypermarket of desire
– A virtual slap in the face
– A New Drug
– What Does ‘Just for Sex′ Mean?
– The Net′s Hidden Treasures

Part I: In real life

1. ‘You never know what to expect′
– ‘I Felt A Bit Like A Call Girl′
– ‘I′m Looking For a Man′

2. First steps
– The Sound of Heels
– Why Are so Many People Stood Up?
– Inner Beauty
– Dates That Do Not Work Out
– Making a Quick Get–Away
– Having a Drink
– Who Pays the Bill?
– Getting It Right

3. Getting it right
– A New Courtly Code
– Should You Kiss on A First Date?
– At Your Own Pace
– Kino Escalation
– Chemistry
– ‘If He′s A Good Kisser′

4. A new dance
– The Revolution in the Dating System
– What Flirting Means
– ‘Would You Like To Dance?′
– The Whole World is A Dance Hall

Part II: Pleasure and feeling

5. Should you have sex on a first date ?
– ‘If You Want To′
– Where′s The Harm?
– ‘Slag!′
– A World Apart
– Cafés Elsewhere

6. Sex as a leisurely activity
– When Sex Broke Free From Feelings
– Sexual Liberation: How Do Things Really Stand?
– Feeling Good Together
– The Story of A.
– Post Coitum

7. The game
– The Games People Play
– A Popular Sport
– Statistics
– Some Portraits
– Disgust and Cynicism

8. The lovesex imbroglio
– A Little Love
– FWBs
– A New Relationship With Exes?
– People Still Want Long–Term Relationships
– Sex Is Not A Leisure Activity Like Any Other
– Sex, Lies and The Internet
– Sex/Love: A Historical Reversal

Part III: Women, Sex and Love

9. Unbridled pleasure?
– Provisional Freedom
– Men Never Change
– Freedom, Equality and Sexuality
– Revolt
– The Impossible Golden Mean
– A Cold, Selfish Monster
– More

10. The ‘bad boy′ paradox
– From Prince Charming to Bad Boy
– In Praise of Pick–Up Artists
– Return of the Bastard

11. Avoiding the traps
– Sex Today
– A Break From Normal Life
– Men As Sex Toys
– A Cycle
– The Dilemma
– Why Women Are Wallflowers
– SexLove

Conclusion
Appendix: on methodology
References

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